Was your last break-up a welcome release from a prison-like
relationship? Or do you have second thoughts, wondering what
if you'd done things differently?
Everyone has a painful and problematic break-up story - at least
for those of us in the dating game. Sometimes those stories
are cathartic to tell, and other times they just remind us of
someone we lost - whom we left behind because we had to for our own
betterment.
In Love Is a Four-Letter Word: True Stories of
Breakups, Bad Relationships, and Broken Hearts
, multiple writers present memorable short
stories about break-ups. The collection is edited by Michael
Taeckens.
Why do people break up? If the relationship was all that it
was cracked up to be, presumably they never would. Indeed,
accepting the other person for his or her short-comings is often
difficult, and in some cases more difficult than others. For
example, one story tells the tale of one lover, who found
it necessary to watch "Wonder Woman" to get in the mood - a quirk
that might be hard for many of us to take.
Sometimes people have so much anger toward the other person -
maybe even toward themselves - for causing the relationship to
fail. Several of the stories have anger at their core. In
one, a man, drunk on beer, urinates into the kitty litter box of
his ex - a behavior that is both grotesque and shocking, as well as
completely understandable at some level.
And in another about a rage-dominant relationship, one character
wonders who was the abuser and who was the abused? It's true
that everything in life is interactive, and it's often hard to tell
when a relationship is going bad; who is the perpetrator,
really? Indeed, things can escalate when another provokes
a response.
The stories are not without a modern influence. The book is
not filled with tragic love stories from days gone by; rather these
tales are emotionally accessible to the reader, and there should be
something in this book for everyone - and if you get nothing more
than the "me too" response, it still works, as everyone has had a
difficult break-up experience that has ever really been in
love.